…and it was really amazing. I’m going to copy and paste it here, and just leave the person’s name off. They are way wiser than me. They’re also a better writer. I wish I was this eloquent.
“It’s not that everyone moves on faster, it’s that people are like the wall street journal online. You get brief snippets of what is going on, the best or worst parts, but if you want the whole story you have to pay for it, or in terms of people really dig and push, and sometimes force it out of them. You are one of those people that will share regardless, you’re a free blog, opening yourself up to praise and judgement equally. It’s a hard position to be in and I admire you greatly for doing so. I don’t know that I will ever be one of those people. People move on fast as a distraction. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t. The worst part is learning to deal with things alone, but I can honestly say it’s the most gratifying.
Change is terrifying because you can’t always control it, but accepting that it’s going to happen and taking charge of all the small changes makes you feel empowered to deal with all the big changes. It teaches you to trust yourself and your own judgement. Becoming the person you are meant to be, for better or worse.
Healing is about accepting help when you know you can’t handle things and accepting that the best down the road may not be the easiest now. It’s accepting that you know what is best for you better than anyone else if you sit down and really think about it.
It is extremely hard getting out of a relationship and not having that one person to go to for everything, but the best part is that you can go to everyone. All those people that once came second to a singular person are all vying for your attention. You won’t lose faith in love because whoever you talk to when you’re sad, or happy, or angry, or giggly are there because they love you. You won’t stop laughing because people are inherently funny, either through words or actions or looks. You won’t be jaded, you’ll be smarter.
Trust people that trust you. Only do things that you would be proud to tell your mother. Accept that most things are best in moderation. Be happy that there is something, even if it’s small that makes you happy everyday.
I am no writer, but I will avidly read every word you write, and listen to every word you say because you are important, beautiful, and worth it.”